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Harassment Doesn’t Happen Here

“Harassment doesn’t happen here” is a comment I often hear. The truth is, it does and it runs the spectrum of small annoying harassments to the most tragic of harassment outcomes. True leaders recognize their responsibility in preventing harassment and take immediate and proven action steps.

“Checking the box” after watching a video compliant sexual harassment training doesn’t work. It doesn’t reach people on a deep and meaningful level. Where they can see it in themselves and in others. It needs to go deeper and be more authentic but without the blame, shame, judgment and isolation normally associated with what is healthy and unhealthy behavior.

I hear this as feedback in my workshops and training (yes…now virtual!) and that’s how I know I can help. I have a different approach and level of personal insight and accountability. Proven in my work:

* Preventing Harassment – A Leadership Imperative

* Leading a Healthy Workplace Environment

I co-teach with leadership expert, Rear Admiral (Retired) and former Commanding Officer of Camp David, Michael Giorgione this highly interactive and critical workshop on preventing harassment and building healthy workplace cultures where people are united in respect, trust and integrity.

We explore the Big 5 of harassment (emotional, verbal, physical, sexual and financial), power and control, tools of harassers and manipulators, and take a deep dive on individuals’ biases, discriminations, preconceptions and unhealthy behaviors.

We provide Self-Empowerment Life Skills of self-regulation, healthy boundary lines and successful reporting.

If you want to be the change to end harassment…contact me. Together we can do it!

Recent story of real-life harassment and the tragic outcome. https://www.armytimes.com/news/your-army/2020/07/05/remains-of-missing-fort-hood-soldier-identified-as-vanessa-guillen-family-says/

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On the rise.

Domestic Abuse & Child Abuse are on the rise during COVID-19. Please reach out to each other to check in. Abuse happens when one person seeks power & control over someone else typically through isolation and unworthiness brainwashing.


* The more you know, the more you can spot it for yourself and others.

* The more you recognize it, the more you can help be the solution.

* I care about you. You are not alone. UNITY.

* I’ve been through both childhood abuse and domestic abuse. There is a way out and a truly beautiful life on the other side. OPTIMISM.

More information on understanding abuse can be found on this website under the “About” tab.

Or contact me personally and I’ll happily help you find a local resource for yourself or for someone you care about. Everyone deserves safety and love. And…that includes you!

Book on Domestic Abuse by Colorado woman. https://www.9news.com/mobile/article/life/domestic-abuse-book/73-b210f1a9-2960-4db4-8d4e-62140c769415

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What if COVID-19 is a test of…

What if COVID-19 is a test of your…

values,

resolve,

and most of all….your character.

We all have had a rollercoaster of emotions and feelings during this world-wide experience. It’s okay if at times it has stressed you out with challenges. And, at times you’ve stumbled.

Here’s the key…give yourself grace & space and then stand back up.

Live in alignment with your values.

Double down on your resolve.

Let your character shine through to inspire others.

I believe in you and your ability.

I want you to believe in me and my ability.

Unity. Optimism.

Together, we got this!

Contact me on how we can support each other and help others.

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Here’s my absolute best piece of advice!

Here’s my absolute best piece of advice.
The most profound insight I have for YOU.
Possibly the most significant self-motivating tip you will hear.

You don’t need me or anybody else.
YOU – Already – Got – This!

You already have the inner-strength!
The wisdom!
The capability!

It’s ok to be knocked down by your doubt and fear and stress. COVID-19 is bringing a hail-storm of these feelings.

We all have voices of limiting self-beliefs.
It’s to be expected.
It’s okay.

And yet, we all rise…sooner or later…to face those fears.
Stare them down.
Confront them.

When we realize they are weak and mean little lies…we SHRED them!

Don’t be afraid my friend.
You are stronger than you think.
Wiser than you know.
And always surrounded by people like me, who you’ve maybe never met, but care and love you.

Relentlessly move forward…believe in you and then reach out to those around you…and believe in them.

I’m counting on you.
I don’t want to hear about one more suicide.
You are not alone.

We got this!

Please send this message to those you feel could benefit from hearing from you. A friendly note can be a prevention of depression and suicide. Thank you for caring about being the best YOU and caring about helping others.

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What Horses Taught Me Today

These horses and singing birds stopped me in my tracks today. Before seeing them, I was in my own little rollercoaster world due to COVID-19. They caught my attention and helped me realize I was focused on my stress and fear. I was grateful for the reminder so captured this video and as it turns out, I thought about them the rest of my run. Here’s what they helped me realize.

Being in social isolation, it’s easy to feel alone…even if you are with others. Feeling alone, we can feel scared and unsafe, especially for someone who’s been through any kind of past trauma.

* First step is recognizing the subconscious connection of feeling alone triggering feelings of stress and fear. THINK.

* Second step is consciously re-thinking and saying to ourselves “Being alone builds my inner-strength. I am safe.” SAY.

* Third step is being in nature’s sanctuary and exercising. For me, elevating my heart during trail running works out my stress, reminds me of my personal power, and that there is always goodness to be found in the world. DO.

What steps will you Think, Say, Do today…for betterment of yourself and those you lead?

What additional support in pro-actively facing stress, fear and uncertainty?

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Contact us for our virtual speaking, workshops and coaching. You got this! And we can help!

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Friday Night Thoughts

As another weekend approaches, I find myself struggling during this time of COVID-19 isolation. I know others are too.

  • It can feel so damn discouraging.
  • So lonely.
  • So hopelessly out of our control.

I found this video and it felt helpful to me. I hope it is for you too. It’s short. It’s worth the watch.

Whatever you’re feeling…it’s okay. It’s to be expected.

Please know you aren’t alone…I care about you.

I find taking the inward focus off of my concerns and worries actually helps lower my stress by focusing on how I can be of help and kindness to others.
Maybe you’ll want to try reaching out once a day to one new person in your network or community …

  • A single person who works and lives alone and might be getting big-time cabin fever.
  • Families who are smothering each other with 24/7 contact.
  • First Responders & Medical who are our brave front-line and yet scared for their own health.
  • An elderly or immune compromised neighbor.
  • A small business owner who’s facing losing their dream of being self-employed and bigger fear of financially hurting the staff they have grown to love as family.
  • A friend who fights anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts.
  • A co-worker who’s always strong for everyone else and weak at self-care.

By reaching out to others we build bridges of connection. Relationships of real meaning. With those…we are never alone. There is love. And where there is love…there is hope.

We got this. Let’s help each other!

Helpful Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pPbt0bpeOns

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What If Monster

When my kids were young, we talked about the WHAT IF Monster. This monster is invisible…like most monsters are…and yet at times, it’s all we can see and hear. 

This monster tells you all the ways you will absolutely fail and aren’t good enough. It encourages you to quit before you even try. To be defeated when the first handful of attempts fall flat.It is fluent in the language of shame, blame and judgment. 

It is a powerful mountain avalanche that immediately smothers you with fear, doubt and unworthiness. 

It artfully distorts the vision of yourselves and the world. Not wanting to feel or appear weak, we self-isolate. We become blind and deaf to our talents, optimism and self-reliance. Not having support of others (heightened with physical distancing during COVID-19), it is easy to slide down the Adverse Spiral. 

So what to do?! Take 2 brave steps forward! 

1st = Learn to silence the WHAT IF Monster by recognizing the physical and emotional warning signs. 

2nd = Learn to stop the monster by building a powerful internal WHY NOT Mentor!

Like great leaders, mentors see us for who we are, help build our strengths, face our fears, deepen our confidence and encourage us to overcome challenges. 

An internal mentor helps us to become our own hero. And thanks to Captain America and Wonder Woman, we know heroes always win over monsters!

Please help me to help others by sharing content and/or contacting me for information on virtual workshops and coaching to foster energetic teams and empowered individuals. 

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Chachi! Don’t you want to learn more?!

Timothy “Chachi” Pachasa is that kind of guy! He makes you want to learn more! Not only is his U.S. Air Force call sign of “Chachi” intriguing… but so is he! Trust me, he’s the real-deal…stellar military career, brave family man, unstoppable life-zest and leading others with a serving heart!

In addition to being a leadership leader, business adviser and CAPE innovator, he’s also a podcast host. Today you can hear our chat about those positive characteristics and how to lower stress, especially during COVID-19. Listen in and you’ll see why I admire his CAPE work!

Please share your insights and comments. We all learn from each other and are more united by sharing….even in this time of isolation and physical-distancing.

Click Here to Listen In! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=foM8Q7SwjwU


I care about you! Stay connected! Stay motivated!

Surrounded by fabulous men! USAF Major Kevin “MEAT” Unks (left) & USAF Chief Master Sergeant (Ret) Timothy “Chachi” Pachasa (right)

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FREE Webinar: Workspace Wellness

FREE Workspace Wellness Webinar: Out of the Office & Into the Home. Thursday, April 9th at 11:30am MST

This event is in support of you and your workforce. We want to help you thrive during the new challenges of working remotely and in isolation. Strategies include how to create home office environments for work productivity (especially with kids at home!), team connectivity and ensure employees mental health well-being. Solutions to prevent risk of emotional isolation, fear-based thinking, lowered engagement and diminished productivity.

Can’t attend? Contact me and we will send you a recording to share with your Team.

Together we can and WILL make a positive difference in each other’s lives!

Webinar made possible thanks to: Kristen Deevy, Kyle Schmit, Brett Round, Murray A. Cleaner and Gary Horby,

Register at: https://lnkd.in/ebs6zjYhashtag#COVID19hashtag#WorkplaceWellnesshashtag#Thrivehashtag#mentalhealth

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Countering COVID-19

With COVID-19, are you feeling moments of Stress, Fear or Self-Doubt?

* It’s okay…it’s to be expected! Give yourself a break…you’re human. Those are human emotions.

* The key is to recognize they are emotions & you have a choice to control your emotions OR let them control you.

* Understand these emotions are the first steps down the Adverse Spiral. The more shame, blame, judgment & isolation you “think, say & do” to yourself, the easier & faster it is to slide down the spiral.

* Commit to recognizing the Adverse Spiral at the early stages when they are easier to stop & you will prevent bigger negative outcomes.

* My favorite health tips: remember other hardships you’ve been through & overcome (create a Victory Log & Gratitude Log), exercise, mindfulness/meditation, focus on a positive attitude with FAD (Flip-A-Dip! transforms a negative into a positive “obstacles becomes opportunities”), reach out to others/stay connected, helping others you feel empowered vs helpless/victim), breathing (3-count, deep belly, yoga breaths), try EFT (aka taping) to rewire how your brain is processing the negative & preventing stress from being stored in your body, eat healthy food, stand in sunshine.

* Please share your good health tips!

#ThinkSayDo #AdverseSpiral #Unity #Optimism