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Harassment Doesn’t Happen Here

“Harassment doesn’t happen here” is a comment I often hear. The truth is, it does and it runs the spectrum of small annoying harassments to the most tragic of harassment outcomes. True leaders recognize their responsibility in preventing harassment and take immediate and proven action steps.

“Checking the box” after watching a video compliant sexual harassment training doesn’t work. It doesn’t reach people on a deep and meaningful level. Where they can see it in themselves and in others. It needs to go deeper and be more authentic but without the blame, shame, judgment and isolation normally associated with what is healthy and unhealthy behavior.

I hear this as feedback in my workshops and training (yes…now virtual!) and that’s how I know I can help. I have a different approach and level of personal insight and accountability. Proven in my work:

* Preventing Harassment – A Leadership Imperative

* Leading a Healthy Workplace Environment

I co-teach with leadership expert, Rear Admiral (Retired) and former Commanding Officer of Camp David, Michael Giorgione this highly interactive and critical workshop on preventing harassment and building healthy workplace cultures where people are united in respect, trust and integrity.

We explore the Big 5 of harassment (emotional, verbal, physical, sexual and financial), power and control, tools of harassers and manipulators, and take a deep dive on individuals’ biases, discriminations, preconceptions and unhealthy behaviors.

We provide Self-Empowerment Life Skills of self-regulation, healthy boundary lines and successful reporting.

If you want to be the change to end harassment…contact me. Together we can do it!

Recent story of real-life harassment and the tragic outcome. https://www.armytimes.com/news/your-army/2020/07/05/remains-of-missing-fort-hood-soldier-identified-as-vanessa-guillen-family-says/

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What Horses Taught Me Today

These horses and singing birds stopped me in my tracks today. Before seeing them, I was in my own little rollercoaster world due to COVID-19. They caught my attention and helped me realize I was focused on my stress and fear. I was grateful for the reminder so captured this video and as it turns out, I thought about them the rest of my run. Here’s what they helped me realize.

Being in social isolation, it’s easy to feel alone…even if you are with others. Feeling alone, we can feel scared and unsafe, especially for someone who’s been through any kind of past trauma.

* First step is recognizing the subconscious connection of feeling alone triggering feelings of stress and fear. THINK.

* Second step is consciously re-thinking and saying to ourselves “Being alone builds my inner-strength. I am safe.” SAY.

* Third step is being in nature’s sanctuary and exercising. For me, elevating my heart during trail running works out my stress, reminds me of my personal power, and that there is always goodness to be found in the world. DO.

What steps will you Think, Say, Do today…for betterment of yourself and those you lead?

What additional support in pro-actively facing stress, fear and uncertainty?

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Contact us for our virtual speaking, workshops and coaching. You got this! And we can help!

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Friday Night Thoughts

As another weekend approaches, I find myself struggling during this time of COVID-19 isolation. I know others are too.

  • It can feel so damn discouraging.
  • So lonely.
  • So hopelessly out of our control.

I found this video and it felt helpful to me. I hope it is for you too. It’s short. It’s worth the watch.

Whatever you’re feeling…it’s okay. It’s to be expected.

Please know you aren’t alone…I care about you.

I find taking the inward focus off of my concerns and worries actually helps lower my stress by focusing on how I can be of help and kindness to others.
Maybe you’ll want to try reaching out once a day to one new person in your network or community …

  • A single person who works and lives alone and might be getting big-time cabin fever.
  • Families who are smothering each other with 24/7 contact.
  • First Responders & Medical who are our brave front-line and yet scared for their own health.
  • An elderly or immune compromised neighbor.
  • A small business owner who’s facing losing their dream of being self-employed and bigger fear of financially hurting the staff they have grown to love as family.
  • A friend who fights anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts.
  • A co-worker who’s always strong for everyone else and weak at self-care.

By reaching out to others we build bridges of connection. Relationships of real meaning. With those…we are never alone. There is love. And where there is love…there is hope.

We got this. Let’s help each other!

Helpful Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pPbt0bpeOns

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What If Monster

When my kids were young, we talked about the WHAT IF Monster. This monster is invisible…like most monsters are…and yet at times, it’s all we can see and hear. 

This monster tells you all the ways you will absolutely fail and aren’t good enough. It encourages you to quit before you even try. To be defeated when the first handful of attempts fall flat.It is fluent in the language of shame, blame and judgment. 

It is a powerful mountain avalanche that immediately smothers you with fear, doubt and unworthiness. 

It artfully distorts the vision of yourselves and the world. Not wanting to feel or appear weak, we self-isolate. We become blind and deaf to our talents, optimism and self-reliance. Not having support of others (heightened with physical distancing during COVID-19), it is easy to slide down the Adverse Spiral. 

So what to do?! Take 2 brave steps forward! 

1st = Learn to silence the WHAT IF Monster by recognizing the physical and emotional warning signs. 

2nd = Learn to stop the monster by building a powerful internal WHY NOT Mentor!

Like great leaders, mentors see us for who we are, help build our strengths, face our fears, deepen our confidence and encourage us to overcome challenges. 

An internal mentor helps us to become our own hero. And thanks to Captain America and Wonder Woman, we know heroes always win over monsters!

Please help me to help others by sharing content and/or contacting me for information on virtual workshops and coaching to foster energetic teams and empowered individuals. 

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Chachi! Don’t you want to learn more?!

Timothy “Chachi” Pachasa is that kind of guy! He makes you want to learn more! Not only is his U.S. Air Force call sign of “Chachi” intriguing… but so is he! Trust me, he’s the real-deal…stellar military career, brave family man, unstoppable life-zest and leading others with a serving heart!

In addition to being a leadership leader, business adviser and CAPE innovator, he’s also a podcast host. Today you can hear our chat about those positive characteristics and how to lower stress, especially during COVID-19. Listen in and you’ll see why I admire his CAPE work!

Please share your insights and comments. We all learn from each other and are more united by sharing….even in this time of isolation and physical-distancing.

Click Here to Listen In! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=foM8Q7SwjwU


I care about you! Stay connected! Stay motivated!

Surrounded by fabulous men! USAF Major Kevin “MEAT” Unks (left) & USAF Chief Master Sergeant (Ret) Timothy “Chachi” Pachasa (right)

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Countering COVID-19

With COVID-19, are you feeling moments of Stress, Fear or Self-Doubt?

* It’s okay…it’s to be expected! Give yourself a break…you’re human. Those are human emotions.

* The key is to recognize they are emotions & you have a choice to control your emotions OR let them control you.

* Understand these emotions are the first steps down the Adverse Spiral. The more shame, blame, judgment & isolation you “think, say & do” to yourself, the easier & faster it is to slide down the spiral.

* Commit to recognizing the Adverse Spiral at the early stages when they are easier to stop & you will prevent bigger negative outcomes.

* My favorite health tips: remember other hardships you’ve been through & overcome (create a Victory Log & Gratitude Log), exercise, mindfulness/meditation, focus on a positive attitude with FAD (Flip-A-Dip! transforms a negative into a positive “obstacles becomes opportunities”), reach out to others/stay connected, helping others you feel empowered vs helpless/victim), breathing (3-count, deep belly, yoga breaths), try EFT (aka taping) to rewire how your brain is processing the negative & preventing stress from being stored in your body, eat healthy food, stand in sunshine.

* Please share your good health tips!

#ThinkSayDo #AdverseSpiral #Unity #Optimism

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Avatars Help Teach!

Just back from speaking at Air Command & Staff College at Air University. It’s the home of US Air Forces’ Department of Leadership in Montgomery, Alabama. There I had the pleasure of meeting Lieutenant Colonel & Dr. Andrew Clayton. His research and work shows that new technology can teach enhanced people skills and prevent toxic leadership.

Check out this link and be sure to watch the 8 minute video on AVATARS. So cool! 🙂 https://airman.dodlive.mil/2020/02/24/toxic-leadership/

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Launch Announcement

Excited to announce launch of collaboration with CIA Chief of Counterintelligence Operations (Ret) Karl Wagner & CIA Deputy Chief of Global Counterterrorism (Ret) Frederick (Rick) Hotchner offering panel speaking, workshops & training, assessment & advisory – for healthier, more resilient, more engaged employees; enhanced mission success; and diminished risks from Insider Threat.

For more details, please see flyer and contact Karl, Rick or me.

Please join us in whatever way is best for you and together we can make a difference. We look forward to hearing from you!

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Joining Forces with Rear Admiral Michael Giorgione (Ret.)

I’m super proud to announce Rear Admiral Michael Giorgione (Ret.), former Commanding Officer of Presidential Retreat Camp David and Founder of LeadingLeaders, and I are joining forces for our new 2-day workshop: PREVENTING HARASSMENT – A LEADERSHIP IMPERATIVE

In an innovative, positive and engaging environment, we co-teach unique content for long-lasting leadership skills in building healthy and prosperous cultures in organizations including companies, government and military.

RECOGNIZING: To recognize the impact of toxic, unhealthy, and inappropriate behaviors between people in your organization.

PREVENTING: To distinguish warning signs, understand subtle to severe manipulations, and effectively eliminate emotional, verbal, sexual and physical harassment and assault.

BUILDING: To build integrity, accountability and trust within all levels in your organization.

2-Day Workshop Co-Instructed By:

Rear Admiral Michael Giorgione (Ret.) & Former Commanding Officer of Camp David brings unparalleled leadership lessons learned from 29 years of US Navy experience including world-wide leadership.

More information on Michael at: https://www.insidecampdavid.com/

Abigail G. Manning combines IU Communications Double Major, extensive research, advance certification and first-hand experiences of overcoming abuse to inspire productive and thriving outcomes.

For more information or to schedule a workshop, please email: abigail@abigailgmanning.com or mike@leadingleaders.org

#leadership #healthy #AuthenticHealth #harassment

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Actively Participate

The more you actively participate in your life, the happier & healthier you become. During my talk, beautifully brave women faced self-awareness questions and how to create win-win outcomes in work settings. An empowering…and fun evening!

This speaking event was PWG of Dress for Success. The mission of world-wide Dress for Success is to empower women to achieve economic independence by providing a network of support, professional attire and the development tools to help women thrive in work and in life.

To learn more: https://dressforsuccess.org/

To learn more about our speaking engagements and workshops contact us at: https://abigailgmanning.com/contact/