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Harassment Doesn’t Happen Here

“Harassment doesn’t happen here” is a comment I often hear. The truth is, it does and it runs the spectrum of small annoying harassments to the most tragic of harassment outcomes. True leaders recognize their responsibility in preventing harassment and take immediate and proven action steps.

“Checking the box” after watching a video compliant sexual harassment training doesn’t work. It doesn’t reach people on a deep and meaningful level. Where they can see it in themselves and in others. It needs to go deeper and be more authentic but without the blame, shame, judgment and isolation normally associated with what is healthy and unhealthy behavior.

I hear this as feedback in my workshops and training (yes…now virtual!) and that’s how I know I can help. I have a different approach and level of personal insight and accountability. Proven in my work:

* Preventing Harassment – A Leadership Imperative

* Leading a Healthy Workplace Environment

I co-teach with leadership expert, Rear Admiral (Retired) and former Commanding Officer of Camp David, Michael Giorgione this highly interactive and critical workshop on preventing harassment and building healthy workplace cultures where people are united in respect, trust and integrity.

We explore the Big 5 of harassment (emotional, verbal, physical, sexual and financial), power and control, tools of harassers and manipulators, and take a deep dive on individuals’ biases, discriminations, preconceptions and unhealthy behaviors.

We provide Self-Empowerment Life Skills of self-regulation, healthy boundary lines and successful reporting.

If you want to be the change to end harassment…contact me. Together we can do it!

Recent story of real-life harassment and the tragic outcome. https://www.armytimes.com/news/your-army/2020/07/05/remains-of-missing-fort-hood-soldier-identified-as-vanessa-guillen-family-says/

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On the rise.

Domestic Abuse & Child Abuse are on the rise during COVID-19. Please reach out to each other to check in. Abuse happens when one person seeks power & control over someone else typically through isolation and unworthiness brainwashing.


* The more you know, the more you can spot it for yourself and others.

* The more you recognize it, the more you can help be the solution.

* I care about you. You are not alone. UNITY.

* I’ve been through both childhood abuse and domestic abuse. There is a way out and a truly beautiful life on the other side. OPTIMISM.

More information on understanding abuse can be found on this website under the “About” tab.

Or contact me personally and I’ll happily help you find a local resource for yourself or for someone you care about. Everyone deserves safety and love. And…that includes you!

Book on Domestic Abuse by Colorado woman. https://www.9news.com/mobile/article/life/domestic-abuse-book/73-b210f1a9-2960-4db4-8d4e-62140c769415

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What if COVID-19 is a test of…

What if COVID-19 is a test of your…

values,

resolve,

and most of all….your character.

We all have had a rollercoaster of emotions and feelings during this world-wide experience. It’s okay if at times it has stressed you out with challenges. And, at times you’ve stumbled.

Here’s the key…give yourself grace & space and then stand back up.

Live in alignment with your values.

Double down on your resolve.

Let your character shine through to inspire others.

I believe in you and your ability.

I want you to believe in me and my ability.

Unity. Optimism.

Together, we got this!

Contact me on how we can support each other and help others.

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Here’s my absolute best piece of advice!

Here’s my absolute best piece of advice.
The most profound insight I have for YOU.
Possibly the most significant self-motivating tip you will hear.

You don’t need me or anybody else.
YOU – Already – Got – This!

You already have the inner-strength!
The wisdom!
The capability!

It’s ok to be knocked down by your doubt and fear and stress. COVID-19 is bringing a hail-storm of these feelings.

We all have voices of limiting self-beliefs.
It’s to be expected.
It’s okay.

And yet, we all rise…sooner or later…to face those fears.
Stare them down.
Confront them.

When we realize they are weak and mean little lies…we SHRED them!

Don’t be afraid my friend.
You are stronger than you think.
Wiser than you know.
And always surrounded by people like me, who you’ve maybe never met, but care and love you.

Relentlessly move forward…believe in you and then reach out to those around you…and believe in them.

I’m counting on you.
I don’t want to hear about one more suicide.
You are not alone.

We got this!

Please send this message to those you feel could benefit from hearing from you. A friendly note can be a prevention of depression and suicide. Thank you for caring about being the best YOU and caring about helping others.

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Friday Night Thoughts

As another weekend approaches, I find myself struggling during this time of COVID-19 isolation. I know others are too.

  • It can feel so damn discouraging.
  • So lonely.
  • So hopelessly out of our control.

I found this video and it felt helpful to me. I hope it is for you too. It’s short. It’s worth the watch.

Whatever you’re feeling…it’s okay. It’s to be expected.

Please know you aren’t alone…I care about you.

I find taking the inward focus off of my concerns and worries actually helps lower my stress by focusing on how I can be of help and kindness to others.
Maybe you’ll want to try reaching out once a day to one new person in your network or community …

  • A single person who works and lives alone and might be getting big-time cabin fever.
  • Families who are smothering each other with 24/7 contact.
  • First Responders & Medical who are our brave front-line and yet scared for their own health.
  • An elderly or immune compromised neighbor.
  • A small business owner who’s facing losing their dream of being self-employed and bigger fear of financially hurting the staff they have grown to love as family.
  • A friend who fights anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts.
  • A co-worker who’s always strong for everyone else and weak at self-care.

By reaching out to others we build bridges of connection. Relationships of real meaning. With those…we are never alone. There is love. And where there is love…there is hope.

We got this. Let’s help each other!

Helpful Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pPbt0bpeOns

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Navy SEAL Commander Chat

Listen in to Navy SEAL Commander Jon Macaskill and host of Veteran’s PATH and I chat about “Mindfully Retrain Your Brain!”

Veteran’s PATH video. Links for podcast are below.

Self-Awareness = Purple Threads

Self-Ownership = Flip-A-Dip!

Self-Care = Healthy Boundary Lines (HBL) & Accountability Buddies

Please listen and share your thoughts!

Apple: http://bit.ly/AbigailManning-Apple

Spotify: http://bit.ly/AbigailManning-Spotify

Anchor: http://bit.ly/AbigailManning-Anchor

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Launch Announcement

Excited to announce launch of collaboration with CIA Chief of Counterintelligence Operations (Ret) Karl Wagner & CIA Deputy Chief of Global Counterterrorism (Ret) Frederick (Rick) Hotchner offering panel speaking, workshops & training, assessment & advisory – for healthier, more resilient, more engaged employees; enhanced mission success; and diminished risks from Insider Threat.

For more details, please see flyer and contact Karl, Rick or me.

Please join us in whatever way is best for you and together we can make a difference. We look forward to hearing from you!

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Joining Forces with Rear Admiral Michael Giorgione (Ret.)

I’m super proud to announce Rear Admiral Michael Giorgione (Ret.), former Commanding Officer of Presidential Retreat Camp David and Founder of LeadingLeaders, and I are joining forces for our new 2-day workshop: PREVENTING HARASSMENT – A LEADERSHIP IMPERATIVE

In an innovative, positive and engaging environment, we co-teach unique content for long-lasting leadership skills in building healthy and prosperous cultures in organizations including companies, government and military.

RECOGNIZING: To recognize the impact of toxic, unhealthy, and inappropriate behaviors between people in your organization.

PREVENTING: To distinguish warning signs, understand subtle to severe manipulations, and effectively eliminate emotional, verbal, sexual and physical harassment and assault.

BUILDING: To build integrity, accountability and trust within all levels in your organization.

2-Day Workshop Co-Instructed By:

Rear Admiral Michael Giorgione (Ret.) & Former Commanding Officer of Camp David brings unparalleled leadership lessons learned from 29 years of US Navy experience including world-wide leadership.

More information on Michael at: https://www.insidecampdavid.com/

Abigail G. Manning combines IU Communications Double Major, extensive research, advance certification and first-hand experiences of overcoming abuse to inspire productive and thriving outcomes.

For more information or to schedule a workshop, please email: abigail@abigailgmanning.com or mike@leadingleaders.org

#leadership #healthy #AuthenticHealth #harassment

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Actively Participate

The more you actively participate in your life, the happier & healthier you become. During my talk, beautifully brave women faced self-awareness questions and how to create win-win outcomes in work settings. An empowering…and fun evening!

This speaking event was PWG of Dress for Success. The mission of world-wide Dress for Success is to empower women to achieve economic independence by providing a network of support, professional attire and the development tools to help women thrive in work and in life.

To learn more: https://dressforsuccess.org/

To learn more about our speaking engagements and workshops contact us at: https://abigailgmanning.com/contact/

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Manipulators Move Goal Posts

Have you ever found yourself celebrating a victory only to find your boss, coach or spouse telling you that you didn’t score, you missed the mark and “you’re crazy…I never said that!” It can leave you feeling confused, defeated and increases your self-doubt. Here’s the inside scoop: MANIPULATORS MOVE THE GOAL POSTS.

With a straight face or intense/angry approach but always in a very convincing way, they change the rules and rewards, and then blame you for not achieving the goal. In the world of abuse, this is called “gas lighting.” It’s a very common practice by unhealthy people who want to gain power and control over others.

Two Tips for recognizing this unhealthy behavior:
* Take written notes of expectations & rewards and refer back to them.

* Don’t assume you fumbled, are at fault, not smart enough or any other negative self-image. Manipulators will work to keep you in that position so they can have power and control over you. They keep you guessing and always trying to “win” their approval. A game you can never win.

By learning to recognize this behavior you can prevent and stop this no-win situation.

Set clear expectations, write them down (add specific dates and comments), make sure everyone is in agreement and hold people accountable by going back to your notes. Written notes help us clearly see if this is a repeated pattern of behavior.

And…please remember to celebrate the victories! Honor when the established rules are followed and the rewards for the successes are given. It goes a long way to building trust with others and productive outcomes.

ENLIGHTEN. EMPOWER. END.

See more at https://abigailgmanning.com/about/
#goalposts #manipulator #badboss