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Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Our Voices Matter: I experienced Domestic Violence, the awful aftermath including PTS and the arduous climb out of the deep, dark pit so I could stand strong on the solid ground of Authentic Health. Creating awareness on all forms of abuse, including DV, is so important to me because I care about people and want healthy lives for us all!

Being scared but knowing my voice matters and is helpful to others, a year ago I publicly told my story for the first time. With the attitude of “go big or go home” I shared it with over 300 people as the keynote speaker at The Crisis Center’s Gala.

October is Domestic Violence awareness month. Please consider how you can help create awareness, prevention and ending the cycles of abuse. Here are some ideas:

* Donate TIME or MONEY to a Crisis Center/Shelter and other organizations who focus on health and well-being.

* Be a SAFE PERSON for others to openly share their relationship concerns and problems. Being safe means you are not judgemental or finger-pointing or disbelieving their experiences. You don’t have to have the answers. You just need an open ear and a kind heart. Feeling alone and afraid of other’s negative opinion/ judgment are the top reasons why the abused don’t reach out and get the support they need and deserve. Consider this…strong people don’t like appearing or feeling weak. Insecure people can’t risk hearing “you should have” statements because they are already beating themselves up. Please make it safe for all personality types to confide in you.

* Be BRAVE. Share your hurt, abuse, hardships with someone you trust. Trust is key and built over time with shared experiences that you work hard to secure and safeguard. I teach that trust in our relationships is where there is mutual: Truth. Respect. Unity. Safety. Transparency.

* Find RESOURCES and gather KNOWLEDGE on the warning signs. DV is a clear cycle that experts can identify. Abusers are predators who look for easy prey. None of us ever think we are easy prey, however we all can be preyed upon. We all have our own definitions of what’s accepted as “normal” based on our life experiences and influenced by our wounds and insecurities. We need to heal and address those issues so we can move into the security of being Authentically Healthy and protect ourselves and those around us.

Your voice and life experiences truly do matter! You deserve to be healthy and happy!

I care about you and want to be of support to you and those you care about. My workshops, speaking events and coaching explain how to identify and pro-actively become our best-safest-happiest selves. For more information or to bring our programs to your work/life, please contact me.
https://abigailgmanning.com/

ENLIGHTEN. EMPOWER. END.

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If You Don’t Own Your Power & Control…Who Does?

PART FOUR: GAIN AND MAINTAIN POWER AND CONTROL
We define abuse as…”Repeated mistreatment, where one person uses manipulations to gain and maintain power and control over another person.”

For unhealthy people, the biggest commodity isn’t money, fame or status…it is Power and Control. They desire Power and Control over everything in their life including other people. They never want to be the underdog or abused, harassed or mistreated by others so they adopt a “the best defense is a good offense” mentality.  By using manipulations they take away your Power and Control so they can dominate over you and you can’t be a threat or an obstacle to them getting their way. It’s a negative form of self-protection that is based on a deep-seated feeling of unworthiness. Often the need to self-protect, even for the harasser/abuser, is based on personal experience with trauma, hardships, abuse, or overt life challenges. What they really want is a deep feeling of self-worth. When they don’t have the skillset to obtain true self-worth, they often use their money, fame or status as bullying tools to get what they truly want….Power and Control over their own lives and confidence in their worthiness…all part of what we call “Authentic Health.”

Feeling a lack of Power & Control stems from unhealthy thinking which includes:
* Never Again Mentality
* Limited Supply Beliefs
* What Mirror Are You Looking Into?

Building Authentic Health means no one can ever take away or diminish our own Power & Control. Here’s how:
* Protect with Health Boundary Lines (HBL)
* Pull Purple Threads & Push Flip-A-Dip! (Turning negative self-talk into positive reinforcement.)
* Promise to SELF (Secure. Ethical. Loving. Fearless.)
* Practice Strength (Self-Aware, Self-Check, Self-Control & Self-Less) where you learn to calmly and confidently Respond vs React out of fear, anger or intimidation. (Fight/Flight/Freeze)

Contact us to learn how to build and strengthen your Authentic Health. When you have Authentic Health you own your Power & Control…and no one can take it from you!

Everyone deserves to live free of harm, harassment, and un-health. Everyone deserves to be their best self and live a life of health and happiness.  We can show you how!