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Harassment Doesn’t Happen Here

“Harassment doesn’t happen here” is a comment I often hear. The truth is, it does and it runs the spectrum of small annoying harassments to the most tragic of harassment outcomes. True leaders recognize their responsibility in preventing harassment and take immediate and proven action steps.

“Checking the box” after watching a video compliant sexual harassment training doesn’t work. It doesn’t reach people on a deep and meaningful level. Where they can see it in themselves and in others. It needs to go deeper and be more authentic but without the blame, shame, judgment and isolation normally associated with what is healthy and unhealthy behavior.

I hear this as feedback in my workshops and training (yes…now virtual!) and that’s how I know I can help. I have a different approach and level of personal insight and accountability. Proven in my work:

* Preventing Harassment – A Leadership Imperative

* Leading a Healthy Workplace Environment

I co-teach with leadership expert, Rear Admiral (Retired) and former Commanding Officer of Camp David, Michael Giorgione this highly interactive and critical workshop on preventing harassment and building healthy workplace cultures where people are united in respect, trust and integrity.

We explore the Big 5 of harassment (emotional, verbal, physical, sexual and financial), power and control, tools of harassers and manipulators, and take a deep dive on individuals’ biases, discriminations, preconceptions and unhealthy behaviors.

We provide Self-Empowerment Life Skills of self-regulation, healthy boundary lines and successful reporting.

If you want to be the change to end harassment…contact me. Together we can do it!

Recent story of real-life harassment and the tragic outcome. https://www.armytimes.com/news/your-army/2020/07/05/remains-of-missing-fort-hood-soldier-identified-as-vanessa-guillen-family-says/

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Sexual Harassment Workshop Registration Is Now Open!

Sexual Harassment: Protect Yourself

Saturday, May 12, 2018, from 9:00am – 12:00pm in Denver, CO

  • Sexual harassment can dramatically change your life.
  • Your career and personal happiness depend on living without abuse and harassment.
  • Learn to recognize, prevent and protect yourself from being harassed, becoming a harasser or fighting a false claim.
  • Together we will strengthen the individual and change the culture!

Participants’ Feedback: “innovative, inspiring and informative…engaging in telling what we can do to make the workplace healthier for everyone…eye-opening…a new take on sexual harassment and abuse…pleasantly surprised on a typically unpleasant topic…would like to see more of this training every year…”

Limited Seats, please register now at:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/sexual-harassment-protect-yourself-tickets-44689051155

Contact us to bring this workshop to your office!

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Champion or Cheerleader…how they help us recognize healthy behavior

There are times in life where we all could use someone in our corner…a champion or a cheerleader. Encouraging us on. Providing helpful insights and constructive feedback. Raising the bar. Picking us up. Seeing our potential. Someone who says “I see you. I believe in you. Good job.” Those can be defining moments in our lives where we decide to press on to greater accomplishments or conversely, sit down in a self-imposed timeout or even be so crushed we give up and quit.

I want to publicly thank Colorado Senate Majority Leader Chris Holbert who saw me speak, believed in my ability to present a unique approach to identifying, preventing and ending sexual harassment…and then to top it off, mailed an empowering “good job” letter that lifts my heart and encourages me to keep taking steps forward.

(Letter posted with approval by C. Holbert)

 

Abigail speaking to Colorado Senators, Representatives and Aides/Staff/Interns.

His championing (or at least that is what it feels like to me!) is a clear example of learning to recognize what is healthy vs unhealthy behavior. It also helps remove Purple Threads (a theory I developed where old internal tapes are filled with negative self-talk, limiting statements and others lies of our unworthiness.) By looking through an outside lens, we often see ourselves in a more healthy and healing light. Having compassion for others still seems easier for most of us than having kind and loving self-compassion.

Some people can initially appear to be your champion or cheerleader, only to lure you in and give you a false sense of trust and security. It’s reassuring to know that given the right tools, you can more easily and quickly see the “positive” impersonators for what they truly are. To make abusive people easier to spot, we highlight the differences between unhealthy and healthy behaviors. Recognizing unhealthy behavior at the early stages means we can prevent abuse in all forms including sexual harassment, bullying in schools and domestic violence. It is so much easier to prevent abuse than it is to recover from it. Keeping in mind, everyone can have an off-day or be going through a challenging period of time. We are not looking to judge others but to be aware of patterns or cycles that are the warning signs of abusive behavior.

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