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Authentic Sharing

Three of the many wellbeing topics we identified as common issues among the 40 warriors at recent Wounded Warrior Project workshop are…

SELF-ISOLATION

ANGER

STRUGGLE WITH SLEEP

It’s completely to be expected to feel this way! Trauma will do this to a person. Trauma can include combat zones, traumatic brain injury (TBI), post traumatic stress (PTS) as well as loss of a marriage, losing a job, going through health complications, Covid, overcoming childhood abuse and so much more!

We provide wellbeing tools and a safe environment where authentic sharing helps everyone not feeling alone and gain new resources to heal and thrive. Spouses and caregivers are also included!

Grateful to Wounded Warrior Project for sponsoring this monthly workshop! If you’re a WWP Alum, please join Army Veteran Paul Peng and me at our next WWP workshop.

Contact me for details or to bring this healing and empowerment workshop to your Veteran non-profit.

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The Power of Seeing People and Putting Fear in its Place.

Please meet retired pro-baseball player and now mental skills coach, RJ Hively! I appreciate him for his for positive attitude, encouraging others (including me!) and his heart-felt conversations, including this one we had on his podcast. Some highlights include:

* Step out of your comfort zone
* Show your face and speak your voice
* Fear and failure are good for us, they are wake-up calls
* Through struggle comes strength
* Better Me = Better We
* Fight the good fight – help other people!

If you have a podcast and would like me as a guest, please contact me. I’m happy to have a conversation and share your message with my network of fabulous people!


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Together We Create Empathy and Healing!

What is your constructive response for wounded veterans when people say or leave a note “You can’t park here – you’re not handicapped!”

In our Wounded Warrior Project workshop, this came up as an issue even with disabled veterans’ license plates.

Wounded veterans reported this also happens inside stores and restaurants regarding their service dog and being told they don’t look like they need a service dog.

Not all wounds are visible. Not everyone sees that.

Your insights could help educate others on invisible wounds and empower those who have them.

Army Veteran Paul Peng and I are teaching this Wounded Warrior Project workshop monthly. If you are a WWP Alumni, please sign up for this proven workshop – Mindset: Healing & Empowerment Through Marksmanship.

Please contact me if you would like more information or to bring this powerful workshop to your organization or non-profit.

Together we make a positive difference in changing assumptions and people’s minds. Together we create empathy and healing.


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Why, How, When and Where

SITUATION = rise in harassment and sexual assault

PROBLEM = same approach perpetuates the same dismal outcomes

SOLUTION = innovative Preventing and Empowering Training

Authenticity and Storytelling – This custom curriculum is based on real-life examples and self-reflection that authentically create self-awareness and cultural understanding of the root reasons WHY, HOW, WHEN and WHERE harassment and assault start and grow. It wraps up with powerful actionable skills of WHAT to do to report, stop and best yet, prevent it from happening in the first place.

When you’re ready for training that works….contact us.

+ Virtual and in-person workshops for military and companies
+ Digital workbook and resource guide
+ Option of additional follow up programs and coaching

Together we create safe, unified and empowered workplace environments where everyone can thrive!


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Coming Up This Saturday

Join us Saturday April 17th for our Healing and Empowerment Through Marksmanship Workshop

We are honored and humbled to provide tools to improve the lives of warriors and those who love them.

Co-taught with Paul Peng, an Army Military Police Veteran and security operations and shooting expert, this workshop is a new approach to building Resilience, Growth and Personal Empowerment.


We help warriors and their families:

This workshop is FREE to all Wounded Warrior Project alumni!

In addition to our Veteran workshop, we offer customized workshops and programs for corporate, CEO leadership, military and non-profits.

Please contact us for more information or to register for an upcoming event.

We learn, heal and grow stronger together!


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Love of country. Love of family.

On this evening … all I want to say is, from my home to yours … thank you for loving this wonderful country and our fabulous citizens!

FYI, this photo taken by a Navy veteran from my living room waiting while I was on the phone helping a new Marine family whose child is leaving tomorrow for boot camp. Something I’ve been through … twice.

We are truly ALL in this together.

Love of country.

Love of family.

I truly care about you, your family and our country. If you have someone you love going into the military or through a career transition to civilian life, it can tough. Please feel free to reach out to me and I’ll do my best to be of insight, value, support or encouragement. No charge. Just authentically caring and sharing what I have learned as a military family.

With love, we unite!


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Grazie to Italy!

Thank you Italy! Over the past several months I’ve been honored and happy to work in Italy! Due to Covid it has all been remote but I am optimistic and looking forward to working in-person with my new Italian colleagues.

All of this has been possible thanks to my stellar colleague and friend Richard Hotchner. A big shout-out of gratitude for Rick!

Here’s a peek at some of the work …

Abitudini Per Una Maggiore Produttivita = Habits For Higher Productivity

I taught “Habits for Higher Productivity” to students at Free Mind Foundry Academy in Catania, Sicily. It was a productive learning environment and fun cultural exchange. Thankfully all the students spoke fluent English!

Lorenzo Vetrano | Project Manager Instructor and 12 students

We took an authentic look at habits that HURT Project Managment productivity including:

* blaming others and not taking responsibility
* lazy (lazy or is it really fear, depression or self-sabotage?!)
* imposter syndrome
* negative mindset
* lack of loyalty
* overly sensitive to comments and criticism
* judgmental
* react vs respond
* procrastinate and miss deadlines

And… then we took POSITIVE STEPS for healthy habits for increased productivity:

* deeper self-awareness and self-accountability
* tips on transforming a negative into a positive
* healthy habits to ensure productive professional and personal outcomes

Fun and meaningful conversations create positive learning experiences and outcomes!


Project Management Institute in Southern Italy

Rick and I co-taught “Empower Your Soft Skills, Gain Your Hard Power”

Please meet Rick Hotchner! He uses examples of the leadership skills he honed after retiring from the CIA in 2018 as a member of the Senior Intelligence Service after 28 years of service in the Directorate of Operations. He served as a Deputy Chief of global counterterrorism operations in the CounterTerrorism Mission Center, and was the senior deputy of a national, strategic program with a billion-dollar budget and thousands of personnel. I personally always find Rick to be authentically caring, approachable, empathetic and an excellent listener. He is a leader I respect, trust and am honored to work alongside.

Course Objectives: Build your own path. Communicate effectively. Deal with complex situations.

SOFT SKILLS = emotional intelligence, advanced communication and working toward self-mastery.

I share my academic education in cognitive, social and behavioral studies with real-life examples of successes and failures and their consequences and valuable lessons learned.

HARD POWER = servant leadership that is inclusive, inspiring, decisive, empathic, powerful and productive.


A special thanks to Vincenzo Vitiello e Davide Maniscalco for these two interviews in Italy.

AFECA – Capitolo di Roma: Interview Questions – 1st Round

Abbreviated Questions:

  • Rick, In assessing the challenge of Islamist terrorism and the need to build capacity to counter it, how important for strategic success is the counter-ideology component?
  • Rick, will you please talk about your approach to leading officers and teams working the counterterrorism mission?
  • Abigail, in addition to being a mother of two United States Marines, you work with the U.S. military and in the corporate environment to develop individual skill sets and team culture. Will you please discuss how you see the role of soft skills as it applies to both the military and the workplace?
  • Abigail, are there any take-aways you can share from your work that illustrate how leaders can leverage soft skills to enable and empower their teams to achieve mission success?


AFECA – Capitolo di Roma: Interview Questions – 2nd Round

Abbreviated Questions:

  • Rick, could you give us a sense of how your leadership philosophy worked in practice?
  • Rick, what soft skills did you need to be a successful leader at the Agency? Can you give us a few anecdotes?
  • Abigail, could we talk, also for the pandemic and its consequences, about PTS? And how is it possible to cope with such an extensive, deep discomfort that, from the beginning of 2020 until today, still does not see a reassuring light at the end of the tunnel?
  • Abigail, is it already possible to define and identify post-pandemic behavioral categories for different types of individuals, especially in the professional field, and where the answer is affirmative, what are the approaches adopted in this regard?
  • Abigail, can you give us your overview on how these two concepts (soft skills and hard power) are combined in social life and how these toolboxes are used in your professional activity, especially in working with national security agencies?

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May you shine.

Sorry for the awful video quality! The message is more important than my ego wanting it to look perfect. 🙂 An impromptu 25 second talk at Martin Luther King Jr’s church when asked “What life message would you like to share with these school children?”

Fun Fact – This is from Martin Luther King Jr’s church in Montgomery, Alabama.

May we ALL shine!

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Podcasts, People and Updates!

You are important to me!

I share the most recent podcasts, people and updates to be of value, encouragement and to create a community of leaders and inspirers. 

I am confident you will find nuggets of insights and inspiration from people I’m lucky to call colleagues and friends. 

Please meet RJ, Dr. Carlos, Jon, Chachi, Kristen, Jim and Jan!


RJ Hively – mental skills & empowerment coach

This retired pro-baseball player is truly a fabulous human being! A candid conversation on authentically connecting with others, growth mindset, limiting personal beliefs and making a positive difference in others lives. 

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Dr. Carlos Vazquez of Crime Network 

Author, Professor and expert in Criminal Psychology & Social Psychology, Dr. Carlos and I chat about Cognitive Restructuring. A 20 minute look at reducing negative thinking and stress. What has held you back in the past, could be holding you back from moving successfully into your future. Internal dialogue. Grooming. Gaslighting. Kindness. 


They make movies out of these kind of stellar guys …. please meet,

Jon Macaskill
Navy SEAL Commander (ret) turned Mindfulness Expert

Join us in our conversation on “Mindfully Retrain Your Brain”


Not to be outdone by a Navy SEAL … meet the effervescent,

Tim “Chachi” Pachasa, Chief Master Sergeant (ret) 

CAPE Lead business owner, loving dad and husband, and venturing into movie making. Please share our authentic laughs and bantering between friends and learn from one of the best, Tim Pachasa on leadership, finding your oxygen and grilling!

Kevin, Abigail & Chachi

Kristen Deevy of Pensionmark Financial Group

I am grateful to the talented and financially savvy Kristen Deevy. She hosted two webinars, obtained sponsors and retained me as the speaker. We focused on healthy habits for happy and productive personal and professional lives. 

Leaders like Kristen, bring people together and create positive content.

1st webinar = Workspace Wellness: Out of the Office & Into the Home

2nd webinar = Workspace Wellness: 2021 Resolutions: Will You Ruminate & React OR Remember & Respond


A previously shared The Leadership Podcast #156, “Helping Others Take Personal Responsibility” with leadership experts, inspiring business mentors and authentically caring guys who IP greatly appreciate …

Jim Vaselopulous and Jan Rutherford

Please see our February 5, 2020 newsletter for more details or listen in here!


I’m honored to know you and these fine folks. 

Please reach out if you would like more information on these inspiring leaders and if you would like to bring this type of content to your organization. 

Together, we make a powerful and positive difference in the world!

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Air Force Academy

I am honored to have taught RESILIENCY skills at the Air Force Academy! Four (4) in-person workshops of my “How to Climb Back Up the Adverse Spiral…and Stay Up!” The timing was perfect because it was right before they went into lock-down and virtual only learning.
* It takes courage to look within and the cadets did it with enthusiasm and genuinely deep discussions on self-awareness, self-ownership and self-commitment.

* My workshop on Purple Threads (limiting Personal Beliefs become Physiologically Tied to what we think, say and do.) helps realize and remove emotional obstacles and self-limitations so that each individual can thrive and teams (or families) can have closer unity.

Very grateful to Col. Kim Campbell, the Director of the Center for Character and Leadership Development at the Air Force Academy who posted….Special thanks to Abigail G. Manning for joining us at the Air Force Academy to talk to our cadets about resiliency. Abigail tells a powerful personal story that resonates with her audience, especially during this difficult and challenging time. Thank you for spending your time with us, for being vulnerable and sharing your struggles, and for giving us skills and techniques for How to Climb Back Up the Adverse Spiral…and Stay Up!

I’m now offering non-military workshops and private classes. If interested, in removing limiting self-beliefs and obstacles to achieving your highest-self, please contact me to learn more!

Might be the best investment you make in 2021…

the most resilient, strong, brave and happiest version of you!

You deserve nothing less.

Keep moving relentlessly forward.

The best is yet to be!

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