In the next series of blogs I will answer the most commonly asked questions we receive. Most people find it kinda scary to ask about abuse and mistreatment but are grateful to learn. I want to remove that fear and offer helpful insights. I truly care about you, your well-being and your questions and concerns…and always love hearing your ideas on how we can make this a healthier world. So, let’s get started!
Question #1: WHO IS BEING ABUSED?
Abuse (by our definition “Repeated mistreatment where one person uses manipulations to gain and maintain power and control over another person” applies to all forms of abuse including childhood, bullying, sexual harassment, neglect, domestic violence, financial abuse and more) happens to all ages of men, women, and children. It is a silent epidemic occurring right under our noses in all demographics regardless of: race, religion, occupation, income, gender, education, housing, location, socio-economic and marital status…in all countries. Hard to believe…but 100% true!
I often get told “This doesn’t happen in our community or school or work!” but the truth is…yes it does.
I get asked, “Isn’t this only a low-income problem?” The answer is, no it is not.
The reason people feel it doesn’t happen in their neck of the woods is that historically, it has not been talked about in ANY social circles. There are many reasons for this and one of the most compelling is money. In high-income circles, there is often the sentiment that there is too much to lose such as a luxury lifestyle, social status and scandal to their reputation, child custody and parenting rights, threats from the income-producing spouse of out “lawyering” the other one, and losing the financial/medical support of aging parents. In low-income circles, the drop to one income often creates a chain reaction of hardship including losing housing and having to move to less costly housing in areas with an increased exposure to violence and gangs, lose custody rights of their kids, poverty conditions, and not supporting their extended family who often are the only safe and free babysitting option.
In both income extremes, there is often verbal and very real fear tactics and threats from small and undermining “You couldn’t make it without me!” to large and actionable “I would rather see you dead than divorce me.”
Regardless of the form of abuse, when people feel they can’t speak up or are afraid to tell someone and they see no other alternative, they will stay in abusive situations. If we create a trusting avenue for talking about abuse and asking how to safely get out of an abusive relationship, we build healthy alternatives for people to take. That is why it is up to us, a society of caring people from all backgrounds, to shift the conversation about abuse from one of a social stigma to one of united support. Won’t you join us?!
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